Valentine’s Day Begins with Me

For lovers in love, for broken hearts and those seeking love, Valentine’s day can be a anything between joyful, inconsequential or trying.

Has anyone noticed that merely being in a romantic relationship is not the recipe for happiness and fulfillment?

On this Valentine’s day I invite you to consider being first a Valentine for yourself, relating to yourself in a special way with tenderness and deep caring. Perhaps you’ve been a stranger to yourself or to parts of yourself. Perhaps you are starting a friendship or already have a deep connection.

Would you take a moment today to PAUSE and be silent?

-Tune in, allowing your breath to center you and draw your attention to yourself through your body

– Say a real sincere inwardly ‘Hello’. How are you in this moment? Take your time. See what arises.

-Check inside: am I happy? Is something bothering me? Am I truly okay just being me? Am I first in my life? Do I take enough for me so that I have enough to offer others?

Notice what arises. Just be with it.

Here’s a song to play and sing along to yourself this Valentines’ Day before you reach outward to wish anyone else a happy Valentine’s Day.

(It’s about 3 minutes long and kind of indicates the era I was raised in!)

A Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you, my readers!

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I have Masters degrees in Social Psychology and Counseling. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Michigan and a Certified Focusing Professional with The Focusing Institute. I've trained in the first level of both Sensorimotor Processing for trauma and Couple Therapy with Drs. John and Julie Gottman,. I am also trained in Indigenous Focusing Oriented Therapy for Complex Trauma with Shirley Turcotte and her team.

7 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day Begins with Me”

  1. Thank you Joya! I will pause, a much needed pause. Hope others do the same and enjoy the benefits. Happy Valentine’s Day.

  2. OMG! The Carpenters. I love some of their music but gag on the syrupy sweetness of some other songs.
    Wishing all a happy Vday. A victory of none over one.

  3. Joya! Happy V-day!!! :)….Thank you so much for the message and the music…there is no greater love than the one we can show ourselves…:)….thank you for reminding 🙂

  4. Happy Valentines everyone. Joya, how hard it is for some of us to allow ourselves to take care of ourselves. Thank-you for recognizing this.

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